Okay, so here’s where I’m at today. I was up late so my body clock is all over the place. I’ve been deep into writing my novel but I’ve reached a kind of writer’s block, well really a period of overview and reassessment. The novel is about sexual radicalism and the conflict between Judeo-Christian values and competing moral narratives (pagan, tantric and rationalist). I suppose what it’s really arguing for is moral pluralism – which should not be confused with moral relativism. I’m personally sick of Judeo-Christian moral conservatives demanding that their moral order be imposed as a universal moral absolute. Most of it is irrational rubbish. Why shouldn’t homosexuals get married? Who cares if the Bible says it is wrong? Who cares what the tribal beliefs of ancient Semites were, are they the proper basis for modern society?
I’m also sick of the sexual ignorance of the Judeo-Christian tradition. They know nothing and what they do know is wrong. They are idiots – the insane who think they should run the asylum.
Sex is a skill that must be taught. Many adults just bumble through their sex lives. Most have meat and two vegetables sex because they have never been taught to cook. Why do we think sex should happen by happy accident? How many men reading this have had a multiple orgasm? A full body orgasm? An orgasm without ejaculation? How many men know when their partner has had an orgasm? How many women have an orgasm during sex or have more than one, say a before, during and after? How come some men can be fooled by a fake orgasm, can’t you tell the difference?
Okay, so what’s this got to do with integral anything? Doh! Sex is a major component of life and has to be integrated into any theory for that theory to be truly called integral. And I’m not just talking about some kind of sanitized and spiritualized sex. That smells of an ascender bias. I’m talking full spectrum from anal orgasm to subtle and higher states of bliss.
The Judeo-Christian dominance of this area has created deep patterns of ignorance. There is no language with which to discuss the extraordinarily complex palette. Sex is everywhere in many forms. It’s in music, in dance, in art, in sport, in language, in food, in everything. Yet our language and conceptual world lacks the subtlty and complexity. Sex is really about bliss. The bliss of smelling a flower, of watching a sunset, of seeing your partner lose consciousness as the bliss of orgasm takes over, of watching him or her lying there afterwards covered in sweat, sighing with the after shocks of a deep orgasm.
The Cosmos exploded in orgasmic bliss.
But why would we be expected to just know this? To become good at anything we are taught by people who know more than we do. It is the duty of adults to teach children what they know and to provide as much educational opportunity as possible. If the child shows talent in music, dance, gymnastics, sport, maths, science, art, etc, we do not hesitate to guide them to be the best they can be. But when it comes to sex – oooops – forget it (it’s outrageous to think a child could have a talent for sex).
Sex is only for procreation and all that is required is ejaculation. Same applies to food. It’s only about nourishment, provided you’ve got all the vitamins and proteins who cares how it tastes. Oh yeah – everyone. So if we can train to be a gourmet cook why can’t we train to be a sexual gourmet? Why aren’t we told what is possible and just how expansive the palette is?
Of course there are ‘issues’. Realistically how many parents can guide their child’s sexual development in a way that celebrates their sexuality? How many fathers can model positive and celebratory male sexuality for their sons and daughters? How many fathers can affirm and support their daughters emerging sexuality without freaking out (Daddy, am I masturbating the right way?)? As we know all men have no control and can’t be trusted to be sensitive – why? Oh yeah, because they haven’t been taught how to.
Sex is over-rated – meaning you don’t know how to do it and I have no imagination. If you are having boring sex I can assure you that others are having great sex. Why? Because they’ve learnt how to and have put some effort into learning. No one is a natural at sex. No one is a natural at maths either. If a child is kept hidden from people and never taught to speak past a certain age they loose the capacity to speak at all.
And here’s the thing, it turns out sex is taught, but boy, what a confused messy curriculum. Mostly we are taught that sex is somehow bad and not to talk about it. In the end most people settle for a lot less than is possible because they don’t know any different (because no one ever talked about it).
Little Sarah runs in from the backyard excited, ‘mum, I did my first somersault on the trampoline…mum, I held my breath for a minute…I jumped three feet in long jump…I did one hundred skips in row…I had an orgasm (hmmm, best not mention that dear, we can celebrate every other achievement but that one).
The great cultures recognized the erotic as an important aspect of culture. Many developed a sophisticated language and body of work. It could not be suppressed in the West but it was always in conflict. Pornography is the result – crudity and banality. In a repressive erotic culture the erotic gets pushed underground where it becomes part of black market and people who neither care nor know about quality are in control. I have nothing against raunch and hardcore – in its place as part of a much larger palette but when we have such a crude palette it’s what we get.
Okay – I’ve run out of steam….I’ll probably think of something after I shut the computer down.
Finally, seems to me that integralists are compelled to support my argument coz it’s logical and brilliant (and free of hubris) 
Btw, how do you know when a child is developmentally ready to know about the details of sex? When they ask. Of course most children are taught early not to ask, ever.